Mature content warning. Photos on this post are PG-13, NSFW photos to follow in a separate post.
It’s an honor to have Jeremy Long write a guest post for BAP Blog, and on this, the blog’s one year anniversary. Jeremy’s presence was the answer to my question: where are the Asian men out there in porn? I had considered doing adult film a year ago, but since I have a fairly private life, and I was balancing work considerations, I decided to put the idea on the shelf. Still, I wanted to, as Jeremy puts it, “put in my work” and do my part. Porn wasn’t about sex or lifestyle, it was about sex politics. His work helped me decide to blog and speak out as aggressively as possible. I have 526 posts in one year, about 1400 followers, and nearly 150,000 page views. I troll the trolls, I dig for content, I put in my work.
So check him out, his work is outstanding. His site is Asianschlong.com
Becoming a pornstar:
At first glance it seems like every guy’s dream job. Guys spend a ton of effort and money trying to get laid, so getting paid to do it seems almost no-brainer. But once an opportunity to do porn moves from the hypothetical to reality, things change fast. What was once a simplistic “getting paid to bang chicks” becomes a million other thoughts and concerns.
“Holy shit do I really wanna do this? It’s gonna be all over the internet–will my friends/family see? What if I end up sucking? Are people going to clown me? What if I can’t even get hard? Will the whole internet be laughing at this pathetic Asian dude trying to do porn? Will regular girls be grossed out by me after?” Etc., etc. This is why so many guys back out last minute. And fulfillment of sexual desire is the last thing on your mind.
Porn also pays pretty shitty. I’m not going to cite any figures but you can probably Google around or just take my word that a fat paycheck is not the reason anyone starts out doing porn.
I’ve talked a bit about why I decided to get into porn in some interviews. Anyone interested can read up via these links:
So if I have to summarize the FAQs on why I did porn: Was it the money? No, I don’t make shit. Was it to get to bang chicks? No, I had a pretty active sex life before porn and you discover after your first shoot that porn sex is a lot of work.
Was it to rep for Asians since there aren’t many doing it? Yes, this was a big reason. I’ve always not only been a very proud Asian man (I literally have “Asian Pride” tattooed down my forearm), I’ve also been quite thoughtful about our status here in the US and things like media portrayal and stereotypes.
Still I think a better question that isn’t really asked is what allows me to do porn, i.e. even though you have a desire why/how do you actually go ahead and actually do it. Most people are surprised that I do porn since I have a “prestigious” academic background, as if the two are incompatible. And I agree, for the most part they pretty much are and in my case, my success in school was more out of line with who I am than doing something crazy like porn (I don’t know how I got into those schools lol I already felt like I didn’t belong).
I was a really bad ass little kid and teenager. I spent a big chunk of my life incarcerated and have had some near death encounters, so I’m just used to crazy stuff in general. When I got into UC Berkeley no one believed it. None of my friends or family thought I was serious, even when I was physically going to class in Berkeley they thought it was for some special parole program or something like that. But when I told my friends I was going to do porn and when people from my past saw me online they had no trouble at all believing it.
That’s what I’ve noticed about lots of the guys in porn–we’ve all been through a lot in our lives. Keni Styles was in the military and has a really unique background. Dat HungCok who I’ve been working with recently was also in the military and went through some tough combat in Afghanistan. If you look really closely you can see some of his war wounds (lol we joke that his cock got curved from an IED blast). Alvin Tan who also stepped up has been through a ton of shit back where he’s from and has a very rare wildness (which is awesome). So that’s what I’ve noticed about guys in porn–we’re all at least a little crazy and its amplified for Asian males in straight porn because there’s a really big spotlight on you. Being in porn is surreal as hell. And it kind of takes a preexisting surreal state of mind to actually be able to do it.
By the way… kind of funny story with how Dat got involved. His girlfriend was apparently a fan of mine and would always watch my porn and wanna do it while watching it. He’s kind of the jealous type so it would piss him off and they’d actually fight about it and she would be like come on what the hell it’s just a fantasy, he’s not real life. Haha, so he was like man fuck this dude Jeremy Long and when he saw we were recruiting he applied and next thing you know he’s up on screen with me. So talk about being surreal. Dat really saw a fantasy come true.
Probably the most useful thing I could do for any of my Asian brothers out there considering porn is to shed some light on what’s not obvious–what wasn’t clear to me before but is now. Porn changes your real-life sex life a lot. It is very polarizing. There are girls who might have been into me before but wouldn’t touch me with a ten foot pole now. There are also an endless supply of girls who just want to fuck me. After my school newspaper did an article on me I was hooking up with a different girl on campus almost everyday.
People think that guys (and girls) in porn are shooting every single day, and their sex life is filled with the sex they get from work, but that’s really not the case. But because I’m a “pornstar” and that’s how I’m perceived by everyone, porn has definitely affected my real life bedroom. Everyone you sleep with (or nearly everyone) will have already seen you have sex. When meeting new girls, it either grosses them out or intrigues the hell out of them. So to most girls I interact with now (sexually) I’m basically just a sex object.
It’s my real-life that’s more porn-style crazy than on set–which is structured and professional, and relatively infrequent. I don’t think these changes in my life are temporary. There’s not much of a difference between former pornstar and pornstar to most people. And I don’t think its an option for me to go back to having a normal monogamous relationship–no one would ever see me as anything but a pornstar–so if that’s something you value you should really think twice about getting into porn.
You should also just take for granted that you will be recognized. Doesn’t matter if you don’t have any tattoos or think your face isn’t easily recognizable…people will figure it out. So many people watch porn and it only takes one person to catch it. Whether all at once or gradually and quietly, you should assume everyone you know will find out.
A lot of people ask if I regret doing porn. Having spent a lot of time incarcerated I’ve grown to never torture myself with things I can’t change so I would never evaluate things in terms of regret to begin with. But I am happy with my experiences and coming as far as I have. I recently took a trip to Asia and was getting recognized over there which was pretty insane. Even back home there are tons of people who love to see an Asian guy doing what I’m doing and I’m honored to be that guy. And I think people over here in America can understand it even better.
We grow up in a place where our image, masculinity, and manhood are shit on by almost everyone. I feel like I’ve done my part as an Asian male, put in my work, and I’m proud of it.