Yesterday, I posted my thoughts on a whites-only dating site, calling it racist, but glossing over the finer points of why it’s racially offensive to have a site like this where, say, a similar site for Asians in America is not.
A shallow look at the apparent equal application of racial exclusion, without considering its context, may lead one to believe that the two sites should be considered equally racist. They are not, but this naive analysis is what seduced the site creator, Sam Russell into launching his racist perspective into the public sphere. Russell’s justification reveals his reliaince on the shallow and incomplete analysis,
“If the right exists to have a black people dating website, the right exists to have a white people dating website. That’s it.”
However, dating takes place within the context of a racialized society and within discriminatory hierarchies of power, preferential treatment and privilege. Where one caste occupies the most benefitted position, preservation and consolidation of the power, acts to reinforce an unfair playing field. (We are assuming that having a caste-based social system of inequality is not desirable.)
The same asymmetry which makes dominant group same-race dating an improperly biased behavior provides, on the other side, the reason why same-race dating is not improperly biased – power imbalance. A relationship where the racial social status lands you on the bottom is something that’s okay to avoid, in my opinion. Further, there is a concern in the preservation of cultural values in potential children where that that’s education and cultural exposure will be in the partner with the dominant culture.