“Asian women are more _____________, and white men go for that.”
“Latinas, well, they _______________.”
“Black men prefer ______________ because ____________.”
I was watching some testimonial type videos on peoples opinions about race & sex. And these were the kinds of things I heard.
It is fascinating how much is revealed when you think about the underlying assumptions or beliefs likely or necessary to produce such opinions. Most of the time, those beliefs rely on a racial stereotype or a broad-based generalization from personal experience.
My opinion, as many of you know, is that the very topic of the conversation is misguided. Talking about sex in generalized racial terms entrenches participants into simplistic opposing camps. When people are “grouped and typed,” personal anxieties and fears arise, and the the gears of our defense mechanisms start grinding forward. The conversation becomes a shouting match. Insults get hurled; people say hurtful things.
Yet… we’re not at war. None of us have a reason to be hostile to each other. Most came to the conversation wanting to talk about something redeeming and wonderful about being human… maybe something we needed support, clarification, or validation over. This false dichotomy turns the feelings around this redeeming and wonderful thing into something dark and defensive. The false dichotomy makes an environment where positive personal development becomes difficult.
As such, I don’t approve or disapprove of the opinions referenced in this post – they are a person’s feelings on it whether or not I agree in a more objective sense. Here, I’m using them primarily as illustrations of common points of view.
What do you think of her opinion? I love to see some comments on this. While I disagree with the idea that white women are less feminine than Asian women (I’m not even sure what this means) I did like her insistence that being a woman and being feminine were not inconsistent qualities with succeeding in a masculine business driven world.
This next one was interesting to me because it bespoke the psychological trauma suffered by many Asian men – she’d never been approached by an Asian man! Sadly, probably most of you haven’t been approached by an Asian guy… unless you know me, I’m horny all the time.
Anyway, just remember to be nice, remember that everyone is a person with a history and story worth knowing. Be well readers!