My dad, he was never really good at empathy. He didn’t relate to his own children or the concept of parenting as something other than “managing” another human. I don’t know if he made a project with timeline goal, but I get the feeling there was a folder with his three “employees”/kids. It wasn’t because he was or wasn’t Asian. Dads all over are terrible with kids and unrelatable. He was just a shitty dad.
On my seventh birthday, my parents introduced me to collecting rocks and minerals, by giving birthday presents of a small field guide and a few colorful rocks. This might have been one of times I was actually excited to get the dreaded “education pack” of gifts. But you got pretty much just books until you pulled your grades up. I got lotsa books.
He invented the Good Behavior Program and issued us score cards, the program was presented initially as an incentive program and positive thing. Adults are treacherous. It wasn’t before long that the confessions were mandatory.
After my dad came home from work, we would line up and report the day’s activities. We were expected to note completed efforts and make admissions of any wrongdoing at school or home. Went from voluntary to mandatory. You did not want to be the unlucky fucker who made an omission in this part of the process.
Accumulating enough stamps would entitle the bearer to redeem them for activities on the weekends. Genova and Hoss were all over it. Genova and Hoss were model kids, bright and eager. They got putt putt trips, batting cages, and go carts. French fries and the coveted Pizza Card.
What is this legendary card about, the Pizza Card?
Pulling out the personal pizza card enabled you to skip dinner : you should never use food as a reward or punishment with children to get a pizza dinner instead of what we were going to have. I think I managed to squeeze some French fries out of the Good Behavior program… 10 stamps, the first prize redeeming value. Well, at least I would get a few tasty nibbles. (Tip: you should never use food as a reward or punishment with a child, unless you’re aiming for an eating disorder)
By middle school he pulled the Good Behavior Program and put another one in place that basically made me Genova and Hoss’ personal servant for two summers. More on making you children compete against each other another time.