As an aside, I use a lot of slang and vulgar language in my posts. I’m not intending to offend. it’s how I speak in my daily personal life.
Speaking Mandarin at home for the first five years, I learned about English “swear words” some time before I had discovered the actual words. My parents said they were to be avoided while in public. I think possibly because I learned about them outside of the culture first, they have less impact to me. It’s like learning the equivalent of “you motherfucker,” in another language. Somehow, it’s never going to carry that same weight it does in your native tongue. I’m not sure English swear words would have been noticed by my folks early on. Anyway, since I’ve been a kid, I’ve had a dirty mouth, so to speak. I wear a different persona in the academic, professional, or polite company settings, but as soon as the tie is off, the tongue gets loose.
Language has all kinds of parts to play with; it is thought expressed. Thoughts being all we are, we owe it to the richness of life, to explore in all healthy forms of expression. One thing I will not do, is use a derogatory word that cannot be applied to all humans. They are, in my observation, rooted in discrimination and tend to perpetuate it. So anything that has a racial, gender-, or religion-related derogatory meaning isn’t something I use (“bitch,” “chink,” “geezer,” &c.)
In banishing that language consciously from my vocabulary, I believe I can slowly shift into less dismissive modes of thinking and the type of worldview it prescribes or implies.
(All this excludes pillow talk.)
So there it is. That’s why I curse so much. I hope we can be cool about that.