I borrow this quote from Chuck Palahniuk, author of Fight Club among many other excellent novels. It happens in the middle of the book and movie. Fight Club members, during “project mayhem,” assault a law enforcement official, immobilize him, and threaten to castrate him in a public bathroom. Tyler Durdwn, played by Brad Pitt, delivers his message to “The Man,” blade out. It fits for Asian American men,
“Remember this. The people you’re trying to step on, we’re everyone you depend on. We’re the people who do your laundry and cook your food and serve your dinner. We make your bed. We guard you while you’re asleep. We drive the ambulances. We direct your call. We are cooks and taxi drivers and we know everything about you. We process your insurance claims and credit card charges. We control every part of your life.
We are the middle children of history, raised by television to believe that someday we’ll be millionaires and movie stars and rock stars, but we won’t. And we’re just learning this fact. So don’t fuck with us.”
I’m looking for some racial healing myself, but this takes some effort from all sides. Anyone happy with the status quo is foolhardy to think that Asian men will be stepped on forever without consequence. That kind of situation tends to get violent, and no one wants that.